All cards on the table, please

I get disconcerted when people are secretive about things. Secretive people weird me out.

I reckon it's because with me...what you see is what you get basically, and if I value you and consider you a friend, I'll put all my cards out on the table very quickly. Three things result:

1. I think they know me better than they do (I blogged about that a few weeks ago); and
2. I think I know people better than I do (because they presumably know all this stuff about me); and finally
3. I feel ripped off when people don't reciprocate

It comes as a surprise sometimes (particularly now when all this clerkship stuff is going around!) when people suddenly come out with stuff that you think you should have known. For example, to warrant getting an interview for a clerkship, part of it is doing a substantial glut of extra-curriculars (and/or having bloody good marks). So when people have turned up with interviews for this place and that, I'm kinda left going..."hey, so what do you actually do outside of uni!?" and I'm surprised that I don't actually know.

As for the feeling ripped off...it's a bit like you've given them a piece of yourself and they've just given you...a dog biscuit (or something similar!). I suppose on that level it's fair enough- I mean some people are just like that and it's not like they asked you to be so frank with them. On another level though, I find that it's an indictment on me that people I consider friends can't trust me with stuff...or feel the need to hide stuff...

So yeah, all cards on the table please everyone.