What I learned from Celebrity watching

I am a celebrity watcher. I loooove celebrity goss. I love looking at the latest red carpet fashions and seeing who wore what (in brief: thumbs up to Cate Blanchett, Halle Berry and Natalie Portman; thumbs down to Hillary Swank...and where the heck was Nicole Kidman!?). I love looking at glamorous people and reading about their lives and forming opinions (based on very little fact probably!). Don't ask me why, I just like doing it! It's fun!

Anyway, in that vein I was watching Andrew Denton's interview with Princess Mary and Prince Frederik last night. They are such a sweet couple! I just loved that they were so obviously in love with each other (it was a great interview- they're rebroadcasting it tonight at 10pm on the ABC if you're interested). Anyway, Denton remarked on this, and Mary said something along the lines of "It's only been 10 months of marriage, I should hope so!" which made me think about my own relationship.

The theory is that in marriage, you're supposed to grow "more and more in love with each other every day". But I know from personal experience that as time goes on, people tend to get complacent...not that they love each other less, but they tend to stop making an effort in relationships just because they're so comfortable with the way things are. And if that's the way things are NOW, when you're just going out...tell me how in the world that translates to a married context. Because when you're married...you just get even MORE comfortable with the way things are, because now they're saddled with you for life...and where's the incentive to try anymore? You can't exactly hold over their head "You'd better get me a bunch of flowers, otherwise I'm leaving!" - that would defeat the whole purpose of marriage.

Hmm. I don't know, I don't have the answers, but I guess the key is to find someone that really will love you for the rest of your life. I suppose also that as you grow in your relationship, that love won't always be demonstrated in grand gestures (but what if you want it to be?? Hmmm).

I think I'll stop here, I'm raising more questions than answers, and I don't seem to have any answers to the questions I'm pondering!