Medieval torture

Sometimes (times like now!) I feel like I'm on one of those medieval torture machines (or maybe not so medieval...I think I saw one used in a James Bond movie?) where they attach your hands to a wheel with a crank on it, and your feet to another, and turn them in opposite directions so your body is pulled in two opposite directions.

When bf and I started going out, my mum really really did not take it well. It was really hard. Lots of tears and stuff. I used to get in trouble all the time when we'd go out, or when we'd talk on the phone or whatever...all in the name of "neglecting your family!!" and "not studying enough!!!". Anyway, it did gradually get better, to the point when she was even ok with the times when I'd stay over at his place for the sake of convenience (argh, I am SO jealous of people who's boy/girl-friends don't live on the other side of Sydney =p), as long as I called home.

And then he went to the UK for the year.

In that year, we lost SO MUCH ground in terms of how mum thinks of this whole thing. I just copped an EARFUL- actually, make that several earfuls- about how he is supposed to drive me around and stuff (which I partly agree with, but I'm practical enough to know that when there's a 45 minute drive between us, you have to go with what is most convenient), and then that progressed into how she doesn't think that I should marry him blah blah blah.

The thing is, I don't even actually think she thinks that. (She does tend to RUN HER FRIGGIN MOUTH...ARRRGH) My reckoning is that she just gets really clingy of me....it's TERRIBLE. I mean, I know that I have to be accomodating and understanding in some respects since my sister isn't around any more and that is really hard for her. But I find it SO HARD to deal with all these stupid, unfounded and illogical comments. She's just saying it because she doesn't want me to go out with anyone, and wants me to hang out with her all the time (which I already did for a YEAR for goodness' sake!), and be at her beck and call.

ARGH.

I want to live my own life.
I hate her stupid unfounded comments.

HELP.